I have three obsessions in life:

🥔 Potatoes
💪 Pedro Pascal
😵‍💫 “Brain vacation” reality TV – with Love is Blind ranking top

For the uninitiated, Love is Blind is a reality TV show where people date for two weeks behind walls and then choose to marry sight unseen. They then have a few weeks back in the real world to decide whether they will actually say “yes” at the altar. 

It’s absolute baloney, but it’s the balm my brain needs after a day strategising with clients.

And of course, I couldn’t resist the urge to analyse it a little. 

If we had to summarise this season it would be “The one where they all needed a lot of therapy”. 

Those “checks” Jeramey (no, that’s not a typo) referenced definitely need improving.

However there was one profound thing that hit me right between the eye balls – which was our amazing ability as humans to self sabotage – EVEN WHEN – we’re holding our desires in our hands. 

A lot of people speak to the mindset that prevents aligned action towards our goals, but as someone whose obsessed with SUSTAINABLE success – I’m more interested in the way we can sabotage success when it’s already ours. 

(I’m going to give away a few spoilers here.)

Without further ado….

Here are the Love is Blind journaling prompts you never asked for and definitely need. 

🦊 Where have you over promised (*cough* Megan Fox)

Look, I’m a girl’s girl. And as she said “I get compared to a celebrity”, I blurted out “Megan Fox” at my TV – cos I totally see it.

AND it seems every moment following, she was back pedalling from that statement. Her insecurity was off the charts – and we’ll never know if she was right to be insecure in her relationship, or if she persuaded him out of it with her insecure actions. 

Q. Where are your insecurities running the show?

Over delivering? Over-thinking content. Under charging? Hoarding tasks? Avoiding activities that may result in failure?

As we can see from Chelsea’s experience, insecurities didn’t prevent her from being brave enough to put herself forward for this experience. But once she had what she wanted, her insecurities ran the show – and she lost it all as fast as she gained it. 
Insecurities are often associated with inaction, but they also play a huge role in messing up opportunities when they DO come your way.

🌺 What’s the Hawaiian Shirt in your business? 

One of the important things we can do for our loved ones, is to accept them fully for who they are. If you have rage at a Hawaiian shirt – you’re going to continue to collect evidence of what you don’t like, because that may be a safer feeling than being nourished and happy. Being happy may feel too vulnerable. 

Q. What are you resisting in your business? 

Running a business, there will always be the “Hawaiian Shirt” moments. But what you focus on, expands. If you decide to run a business you love, make sure it’s one you can embrace all of. Resistance to what it stands for will keep you small. 

📕 Where are old stories holding you back?

It was heartbreaking watching Clay allow his Father’s own infidelity to mean he himself would struggle to be faithful. But ultimately, as he acknowledged by going to therapy – this is a narrative that hasn’t been supporting his goal to ultimately get married.

Q. Where are you telling yourself unhelpful stories?

“I’m no good with money” “People won’t pay me that” “I hate social media” “I don’t have ideal clients in my following.” “I can’t be salesy.” “I’m not organised.”

These stories are toxic. Don’t get yourself a business as good as AD, and find yourself in a position where you can’t hold onto it. 

💋 The Amy & Johnny Effect 

Are Johnny and Amy perfect humans?

Of course not. 

Perfect only exists in the dictionary.

Yet.. you wouldn’t have known that from their behaviour. Their relationship wasn’t luck. It was the cumulative result of two grounded individuals who were willing to pursue their desires, have the difficult conversations with grace and compassion and trust they could navigate the difficult moments together. 

You could see it was a challenge for the production team to create any edit that left you ever doubting both their yeses at the altar. Their commitment to one another, while never abandoning themselves was palpable the whole way through the show. 

Q. What are you doing to play safe and avoid failure? What do you make failure mean? 

Here’s the thing. Sales (the life force of a business) are based on relationships. So it’s not surprising that there’s a cross over in who we are in our love lives and who we are in our businesses.

Genuinely HAPPY business owners and lovers are:

🍒 Great listeners and communicators 
🍒 Clear on what they desire and aren’t distracted by everyone else’s definition of success
🍒 Embrace failure as part of growth  Know when they’ve hit their goals, the real work has only just begun. 
🍒 Know that relationships mirror your light AND your shadow. Where it doesn’t feel good, the invitation nearly always is to work on themselves. Not blame the other. (I say nearly because let’s face it, some clients are just a Jeramey or a Jimmy). 

Q. So with that in mind. Who do you need to BE to hold all the success you desire?

Let me know if you enjoyed this blog so I have the excuse to turn it into a series  

Aaaany excuse to watch more brain rot!

AND Is there anything you’d add?